Wednesday, April 25, 2012


Now listen up. Yes, relationships are important and not just those with the guys. I mean those between you and the ladies especially between you and THE lady. The one and only who you will have a great time wooing and cooing over when you first get to know her. When your dopamine is being replenished by the excitement of the chase and conquest.

But after the documents are signed and sealed the excitement of it all tends to wear thin, really thin.  Here’s when your not so appreciated ADHD symptoms may creep up and suddenly you become the Hyde in the Jackyll and Hyde. Your dopamine takes a dive and now you’re on the hunt for more novelty and adventure. In the meantime, the lady in your life is wondering why she’s no longer the center of your universe and why you’re suddenly OK with eating microwaved mac and cheese instead of agave-glazed pork belly with grilled pineapple.

In due time, she may well become distracted by bearing and raising your children, mainly on her own and often confusing you for another one of her little ducklings. After years of her feeling like she’s just an asteroid in your universe and you look and act too much like the boy you used to be way back when, she may threaten to throw in the towel. This is when you freak and finally keep the appointment with me that she made several years ago.

Thoughts about being a single dad and having to get the kids out of bed on time for school, make their breakfasts, lunches and dinners, pick them up from school on time, get them to ballet, piano and soccer, make them do homework and finally make them go to bed on time-jump start that part of your brain that’s been distracted from the boring realities of every day home life.  You may have been doing quite well at work. After all, your brilliant ideas and out-of-the box thinking has landed you CEO of your own company. The boring, gory every day details of work have been handled by your various assistants and secretaries who get paid to clean up after you.

So welcome, take a seat. Now the real work begins...